Everyone discovered it in a different way, but one thing is true for all of us: We've all started sometime and we were all newbees at one point of our voyage.
Maybe you've had these feelings for years but you didn't have a name for it. Perhaps you knew exactly what you wanted but were too afraid or ashamed and you thought you were abnormal, weird or a freak. Could be you never knew you had it in you, until you came across some BDSM-oriented material. Even now you could be very unsure whether BDSM is something you like. You could, on the other hand, be an experienced Dom or sub who just dropped by to check out this site. Than again, Many even don't know they're into BDSM (but we know they are)
One thing I know for sure: You are one of the last category mentioned above. You are here because you feel something for BDSM, or at least think you do.
Okay, you've got these feelings, this interest or this undefined longing. Now what??? This question has been asked many times and there is no simple answer. What you are going to do with BDSM and how depends on yourself, your surrounding, your partner, physical condition and many more personal factors. There's no good way to advise you other than to do only the things that feel good to you. If you're comfortable with it, it's a good thing. If you're not comfortable with it, don't do it but also don't forget about it. Think about it, why did it make you uncomfortable? Is it just not your thing or is it your upbringing and environment that tells you it's a bad thing? Then you'll have to decide why you came here in the first place. Did you come here to learn about who you are ? or what others want you to be?
In the first case read on, in the second case take some time to think it over. We will try to answer a number of questions many people have when they first start to learn about BDSM and help some find their way in the exciting world of Dominance and submission. If there's a question we don't answer here, you can mail and we try to answer it for you either on this page or by mail.